Leadership with Substance: Why Being “Wishy-Washy” Won’t Work

Leadership with Substance: Why Being “Wishy-Washy” Won’t Work

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In today’s world, leadership of substance is more crucial than ever. But what we are seeing in businesses, universities, religious institutions, and government bodies is alarming: leadership that caves to the loudest voice rather than standing firm on a robust belief system. Leaders are bending to every gust of public opinion, and frankly, I’m thinking, What the f*ck are you doing?

The Risks and Rewards of Standing Firm

Too often, these leaders buckle under pressure from the noisiest group, making disastrous decisions that impact people’s lives in intimate ways. I see leaders walking back their choices, attempting to please both sides of an argument, thinking they can maintain power by keeping everyone happy. They chase after the status of leadership rather than living its substance. This is morally weak leadership. When you are obsessed with the position, but not the values that should anchor that role, your leadership becomes diluted, irrelevant.

There are leaders today who are not rooted in any meaningful belief system, which makes them dangerously susceptible to the whims of popularity. Wishy-washy leadership is dangerous—whether in the public eye, in your relationships, or in your business. It lacks conviction. We are witnessing this all around us, and it’s eroding not only our institutions but our trust in leadership itself. 

There is  a saying: “You can always tell a leader by the arrows in his back.” These arrows are the scars of standing firm in one’s beliefs, even when facing resistance. True leadership isn’t defined by popularity or approval—it’s marked by the willingness to face adversity, criticism, and even hostility in the pursuit of what’s right. Leaders who stand for something substantial inevitably become targets, but that’s exactly what distinguishes them from the rest.

Here’s the thing: When leaders focus solely on securing their position and maintaining their power, they are no longer impressive. Real leadership is about something deeper, something morally-founded. Something significant.

I’ve observed this deterioration for some time, and it fuels my dedication to the work I do. What drives me is the opportunity to collaborate with people who have a strong moral compass and a genuine desire to lead in a way that makes a meaningful impact—both personally and professionally. We need this kind of leadership now more than ever, not for recognition, but to create lasting, positive change in the world.

This is not a challenge for the faint of heart. And it isn’t just for those in formal leadership roles. This is a call to leaders who want to be a force for good and create significant, positive change in the world. The world doesn’t need more figureheads, more “leaders” obsessed with looking the part. The world needs principled individuals who desire to lead more than they desire the title.

Any leader learns along the way how to manage conflicting personalities and competing priorities. It’s part of the game. The trick is to make sure the game isn’t playing you. A diplomatic stance can be essential and it will serve you well; but only if it doesn’t take priority over your moral compass and is, in fact, guided by your moral stance. If you feel the burning inside you or a sense of dissatisfaction, or frustration because you’re not saying what needs to be said, it might be time to re-anchor into what matters to you and your vision. Stop biting your tongue and watering down your decisions. Choose to be a leader of substance, instead.

The Hero’s Journey: A Path of Moral Integrity

There’s a moment on the Hero’s Journey when the hero must make a choice—do they stay true to their calling, even if it means walking a lonely path, or do they let the glittering promises of success seduce them off-course? The dragons and villains in our world are pulling leaders off their moral foundation with the allure of status and recognition. When this happens, purpose grows distant. You no longer make the impact you were meant to make because you’ve traded your values for a seat at the table. You abandon yourself and your vision.

But here’s the truth: real significance in leadership isn’t about being liked or about checking boxes. It’s about conviction. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr wasn’t popular with most of America and even other church leaders in his time, but he was steadfast. He wasn’t wishy-washy. He wasn’t a people-pleaser. He stood firm, even when it was lonely, and that is why he was able to move mountains and create a legacy. 

Many leaders today confuse “aloneness” with loneliness. Standing firm in your beliefs might make you feel isolated, but that’s different from loneliness. It’s the solitude of significance, the place where only a few can stand because they have chosen the morally right, rather than the popular, path. I know it is risky to take a stance – Dr. King certainly paid the ultimate price for it – but most of us aren’t risking life and death when we take an unpopular but necessary stance. The stakes might be high, but they’re not that high (even when it feels like it.)

I’ve had to make hard choices myself, to disrupt relationships and my work in order to stay true to my moral foundation. I had to break the patterns that kept me playing small, because I realized I didn’t want to live in a beige, bland reality. Yes, it seemed easier to live that way, but, for me, it felt meaningless.

As Lin-Manuel Miranda sings in Hamilton: “If you stand for nothing, Burr, what will you fall for?” We have become a society of leaders who fall for everything because they stand for nothing. Leadership today feels like a popularity contest, with leaders more concerned about social media standings than moral standing. But true leadership requires the courage to follow your moral compass, to not be wooed by the fleeting temptations of status and recognition.

 

Finding the Courage to Lead with Integrity

To lead from a place of moral integrity is to know that you will never satisfy everyone. Real integrity is not about being the whole thing for everyone; it’s about being that sharp slice of truth that people can rely on. When you abandon yourself, your leadership is hollow, and when you get to the end of your life, it won’t feel the way you wanted it to.

We are in a time where leadership has become a popularity contest. It’s about shiny things and status and social media standings. But true leadership requires the courage to stand firm in your beliefs, to not be wooed away from your moral compass by the temptations of success.

You can’t stand for your work, your family, or your community if you don’t first stand for yourself. Leadership is about more than popularity—it’s about principles, moral courage, and a True North that guides every decision. Leadership of significance is bold, truthful, and colorful—it’s not watered down to suit everyone’s tastes.

So I’m asking you: Will you stand for your values? Or will you, like so many others, fall for the allure of fleeting success? Because if you don’t stand for something, the world will pull you off course, and in the end, you’ll have nothing of substance to offer.

The world is on fire right now, and it needs you—leaders with integrity, conviction, and a robust belief system. We don’t need more leaders seeking status. We need leaders of substance, leaders who will leave a legacy that actually matters.

“No leader escapes their career unscathed, or perpetually beloved.” But in the end, it’s the leaders with the arrows in their backs who are the ones remembered for making a true difference.

Will you be one of them?

 Reach out if you are ready to lead with substance.

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