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The touch point between what used to matter and what matters now.
Part 2:Let me start with a quick disclaimer:
I’m going to press on some deeply conditioned ideas here—especially around success.
And to be clear: I am for success. Deeply.
Whatever success means to you—financial stability, big impact, industry recognition, a healthy business, or a life that’s designed on your own terms—I want that for you.
I work with high-achieving, high-performing humans who have done extraordinary things.
But what I’m noticing more and more is this:
It’s not always enough anymore.
The metrics that once meant everything…
The milestones that once lit you up…
The lifestyle you once dreamed of…
It’s all still good. But for some of you?
It’s not giving you the feeling you thought it would.
And that can be incredibly confusing.
Because by all conventional measures, you’ve made it.
You did everything “right.”
You played the game well.
And now?
It’s just not landing the same.
That doesn’t mean you’re broken.
That doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful.
It means you’re at a touch point.
A moment of recalibration.
Where the system you once thrived in starts to feel too small for who you’ve become.
This is when Success—the older sibling—starts to lose a little of her luster.
And her quieter sibling, Significance, begins to stir.
We talked about her before.
She’s not here to cancel your ambition.
She’s not here to shame your achievements.
She’s here to expand the story.
Because success got you here.
But it might not get you where you want to go next.
You might not even know what that next thing is yet.
You just know that success—at least, how we’ve been taught to define it—feels a little… tired.
You still want growth, but not just growth for growth’s sake.
You still want impact, but not without alignment.
That’s where Significance starts to enter the room.
Not as a dramatic arrival.
But as a new orientation.
A different kind of signal.
We’ll define her more fully later.
But for now, think of Significance as the part of you that wants what’s real.
The part that asks:
- Does this still feel true?
- What am I building—and why?
- Who do I want to be inside this success?
This isn’t a breakdown.
It’s an evolution.
A shift from success as performance to success as presence.
A shift from doing what works to doing what matters.
A shift from “I’ve made it” to “What does a life well lived actually look like?”
You’re not walking away from everything you’ve built.
You’re just beginning to build with a new framework.
A Moment for Significance
Block 10 minutes. No performance. No pressure. Just reflection.
Ask yourself:
- Where am I still winning—but no longer feeling it?
- What part of my current success feels like a past version of me?
- What would it mean to lead from Significance—even if I don’t fully know what that looks like yet?
Let yourself not have the answers yet.
Just start asking better questions.
Love + The Permission to Want More,
Jen
PS-This is the exact moment where I meet many of my clients—at the edge of enough.
Still high-achieving, still ambitious, but hungry for something deeper.
If you’re at this touch point—where the old Success story is no longer the whole story—let’s talk.
Jen Karofsky | Thought Partner & Coach for Visionary Leaders & Significance Seekers
Jen Karofsky collaborates with leaders who are ready to disrupt the status quo and craft a life of legacy, deep connection, and purposeful impact. Through intentional coaching and bold thought partnership, Jen helps you align your work, your values, and your vision to create transformational change in your world.
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