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The conversation that changes everything.
Part 3: So far, we’ve named the two siblings:
Success—the magnetic, outcome-driven, high-achieving force who built the world you live in.
And Significance—the quieter, inward-facing part of you who’s now asking deeper questions about meaning, alignment, and legacy.
For many people, these two parts have never been in real conversation.
They’ve either taken turns in the driver’s seat…
Or worse—stood in silent opposition.
One seen as the “productive” self.
The other as the “emotional” or “indulgent” self.
(Guess which one gets more budget in most organizations—and internal operating systems.)
But something profound happens when we stop pitting them against each other.
We realize: they were never meant to compete.
They were meant to collaborate.
Think of this as family therapy for your inner operating system.
Success is still sharp, strategic, visionary.
But now? They’re learning to listen.
To pause. To consider why we’re doing the thing—not just how fast we can get it done.
Significance is still thoughtful, rooted, impact-driven.
But now? They’re learning to speak up.
To make requests. To show up at the whiteboard instead of just journaling in the corner.
We’re not choosing one over the other.
We’re building with both.
Because real leadership—the kind that creates a life of depth, integrity, and momentum—comes from integrating these two parts into a cohesive whole.
Success without Significance is hollow.
Significance without Success is stuck in the clouds.
But together?
They’re a force.
This isn’t always easy.
It takes unlearning.
It takes reparenting parts of yourself that learned early on which sibling was “good” and which one was “frivolous.”
It takes reimagining what ambition looks like when it’s in service of something greater than applause.
But here’s the payoff:
When you let Success and Significance become co-creators, you unlock a different kind of power.
One that isn’t about volume—it’s about resonance.
One that doesn’t just scale—it sustains.
You stop hustling for your worth.
And start building from your truth.
A Moment for Significance
Try this brief thought experiment:
- What does Success in me want right now?
- What does Significance in me want right now?
- If I let them build something together—what might they create?
Let it be a brainstorming session. A negotiation.
You might be surprised how much these two want the same thing—just with different language
Love + The Art of Building with Both Hands,
Jen
PS- This is where the real work begins—not in abandoning what made you successful, but in expanding it to include what matters most.
If you’re ready to let Success and Significance become co-creators in your life and leadership, Let’s talk.
Jen Karofsky | Thought Partner & Coach for Visionary Leaders & Significance Seekers
Jen Karofsky collaborates with leaders who are ready to disrupt the status quo and craft a life of legacy, deep connection, and purposeful impact. Through intentional coaching and bold thought partnership, Jen helps you align your work, your values, and your vision to create transformational change in your world.
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